A story about life, love and loss as seen through the eyes of a boy crazy about football.
Children’s stories provide ways for parents to discuss difficult subjects with their children. It’s not easy for loving parents to approach the subject of death with their children. Understandably some parents try to avoid the subject all together – yet loss is a sad but inevitable part of life.
When we avoid, or distract a child from a subject that is upsetting them we are closing off an opportunity for growth. Yet some subjects are too difficult or painful to discuss, particularly when we are suffering ourselves.
When a mother or father is grieving following the death of their own parent their children can be experiencing confusion as well as sadness and loss. A loved one is gone. Questions arise – where have they gone? Will they ever see them again? Will our family ever be happy and have fun, like we used to?
Sometimes kind relatives or family friends tell little children’s stories about where the dead person had gone. These stories can differ from ‘Granny’ is an angel looking down from heaven – to ‘Granny is gone for a long restful sleep because she was tired.’
CHILDREN’S STORIES IN DIFFERENT CULTURES
The children’s stories we use to tell children about death vary from culture to culture, religion to religion, but what doesn’t vary is the fact that when a loved one dies they leave a space in the family where they used to be. One child described a ‘granny shaped hole in the house.’ Others talk about the ‘empty chair nobody ever wants to sit on.’
‘Football Crazy’ is about this empty space in the family. In this story it is the Grandfather who dies. This wonderful, loving football crazy granddad had been a huge part of this football loving family and without him the family don’t enjoy football any more.
As a family they learn to accept the loss gradually and together they find a way to enjoy their lives again while always remembering their wonderful football crazy granddad.